become a surrogate
tips for your journey
Do you want to become a surrogate?
One of the first things you need to do before starting your surrogacy journey is to think seriously and deeply if surrogacy is the right option for you.
Are you ready to commit to the Surrogacy process and your Intended Parents?
Before you become a surrogate, you need to fully understand that surrogacy can be a challenging and lengthy process. From start to finish you will need to pass some medical and psychological screenings, find your intended parents, meet in person, have a lawyer and sign some legal contracts, take medications and shots, become pregnant, carry and deliver the baby. Also, you need to have your mind prepared because sometimes the first attempt is unsuccessful, if this happens then you should restart the fertility process (medication, shots, transfer, etc).
You should be aware that many issues can happens during the surrogacy, for example
- the viability of the eggs
- the viability of the embryos
- Problems with the egg donor
- Problems with the sperm donor
- Proper response of your body to prescribed medications
- Issues with the schedule
There are a lot of things going in a surrogacy process, a lot of people working together, a lot of feelings, effort and hopes, you need totally sure you are prepared and committed to the process.
How to find intended parents? Searching for your Intended Parents
When you start you research, as a surrogate mother, first you need to thinks about your goals and expectations about what you are and are not comfortable with, this information is very important to find compatible intended parents.
There are several things you need to think about before you become a surrogate:
- Are you okay with helping any and all couples (for example, straight or same-sex people, couples or single foreign or domestic?
- Are you willing to carry twins?
- Have you learnt about the risk of carrying multiples?
- Do you know that each embryo has the possibility of splitting?
- What is your point of view about termination and selective reduction?
- What do you think about invasive genetic testing like amniocentesis?
- Are you willing to pump breastmilk for the baby?
- What kind of relationship do you want to have with your Intended Parents?
It's important to have a clear answer to all this questions before you move forward. You need to know what you want and you don't want for your surrogacy journey and discuss it with your intended parents before you match. It is important to be in the same page regarding to transfer one or two embryos, termination, reduction, etc.
Remember that even is your body that will be pregnant, so you have the right to say what you want and don't want, so neve match with Intended Parents whose expectations differ from you.
Many times, when you meet your intended parents the first time you will have a feeling of if it's a right match or not. However, don't be concern if this doesn't happen at first, because also there are really good matches with no feeling. Said that, you don't need to match with the first intended parents you will meet, if you do not have a good feeling about them, don't with them, sooner or later, you will find the right Intended Parents for you.
Are you ready to become a surrogate? Learn more in https://mysurrogatemom.com/being-a-surrogate-mother